WHEN DO YOU KNOW THAT A RELATIONSHIP IS UNHEALTHY?

by Lisa
(Lakewood ohio USA)

Visitors Question:
I have been dating a person for 2 years. The first year things were great. Then I noticed a change in his behavior. He started to get jealous of the friends I'd have over. Even though he was there it didn't matter.

He would fly off the handle after they left. Screaming at me like I did something wrong. The next day he would say he was sorry and things were get back to normal until the next time.
We had a pretty good sexual relationship and I figured I was the only for him.

Boy, was I surprised when I saw him on the street holding hands with someone else. I had just got done talking to him on the cell phone and he said it would be in about 1 hr. I thought nothing of this.

I was in a car with a worker, she was driving me home and we were driving through a part of town that I don't normally go through.
When I got home and he arrived, I confronted him with this and I saw a side of him that scared me. And then the worst thing happened to me, he slapped me in the face and I fell backward on the couch.

Thank God, he stormed out of the house. I ran and locked the door and I never heard from him again. It's been about 3 weeks. What should I do? Should I assume it is over and I can go on with my life? Please help.

Answer:
Honey, it was over once he crossed that line of violence. And the simple fact that you saw him with someone else in a certain way with your own eyes. And three, you haven't heard from him in weeks.

I'd say move one and being you saw a different jealous violent side of him, I suggest you be careful.

I hope I've answered your question. Take care and be careful.